Early Days of 2011 Are Promising:-) Is 2011 Gonna Herald a New Beginning???

5th day into a new year and I must say I am really enjoying 2011 so far. Although the KL trip wasn't as fun as the Taiwan trip, probably due to the absence of my bro and the presence of his stand-in, with Jol and SQ ard, it couldn't be that dull. In sum, it was still a good trip even though I was on a really tight budget. At the very least, I can now say that I've been to all the Zouks - SG Zouk, KL Zouk and Zoukout. Hahaha!!! Not a bad way to start off a new year...

In no uncertain terms, I believe the underlying factor for such a good start has to be a certain gal. Perhaps some guys might think that it's so pathetic to let a single gal define a man's happiness but personally I beg to differ. She's not just any gal, if you catch my drift. Lol!!! Not many gals have left a mark in my life coz I'm not that sort of guy who allows such a thing. So far, only Huishan and Mei really had some kinda impact, albeit adverse ones. I have always been crying out for the one who would come in and start to make a positive change. To be frank, it's still early days to tell but till now, the signs are pretty positive:-)

Have been spending loads of time with her lately and it certainly feels good, discounting the occasional emo spells that she put me through. The most emo being the one in KL. I felt as if I went back through time on a time machine, almost losing my sanity! Thankfully, I was able to retain my composure. If not, Ken sure kana 100X jialat jialat from me. LOL!!!

Unfortunately, there are definitely some issues to be addressed. She's wondering how a relationship could last 7-8 years and eventually progress into a blissful marriage when there are so many temptations around, with gearing divorce rates justifying her worries. Hehe... A bit of quoting here. First thing first, a relationship isn't always gonna be in a honeymoon period especially when it's long, super duper long. A relationship is very dynamic, it evolves into different stages as time passes. Before you know it, it has gone from honeymoon to more like a habit. That's when both parties need to put in effort to spice things up from time to time in order to sustain it. Nobody likes a stale and mundane kinda relationship rite!

However, for a relationship to smoothly enter the habit phase, both parties need to be very comfy with each other. As I like to put it, no barrier. To attain no barrier sorta scenario, both parties gotta know each other inside out and outside in. This is the reason why I wanna go look her up after her facial; I wanna go look her up after she's done helping her parents; I wanna spend time studying together with her; meet up with her frenz and get to know them; share a drink with her even though she thinks that it's quite disgusting after how she always bite the straw and etc. The bottomline is that you have to integrate the other party into your life and vice versa. Only way you are able to do that is to accept his/her flaws, friends and family. Hence, in my opinion, there should be no such thing as unglam or any of that bullshit coz when 2 become 1, you love the other party for who she/he is and what not.

This process of integration also acts as a deterrent to infidelity, at least from my perspective. I feel that one that is rational and mature enough wouldn't wanna jeopardize a relationship whereby one could be herself/himself and still feel so comfy for a short temporary high octane new honeymoon period with another person. No doubt honeymoon is fun and all but is it gonna be able to progress into the next phase? Is the new person gonna be able to accept all your flaws? Even if he/she is able, how long more is it gonna take? If it were up to me, I seriously wouldn't wanna put myself through all these shit. Simply a waste of both time and effort. Sadly, for my previous 2 relationships, I didn't have the say. My 2 ex-gfs probably felt they have the luxury to try out a few more times. They wanna play the game. Well... Go ahead I would say to them coz I m tired of games.

So yup, I am trying really hard to integrate her into my life even though I dun really know if she's keen. Haha!!! I hope she does:-) Let's hope she would do likewise....